Creative Self-destruction

That's my term for what Oswald Sobrino calls the "silver lining" of people being their own worst enemy. He gives some examples of the evidence:

1. The bartender who can't help aggressively intruding on your private conversation;
2. The rude manners that get someone no slack or sympathy from a restaurant server;
3. The insecure who bore you with their clay pillars of self-esteem to the point that you don't want to hear any more about their school, their exercise regimen, their ancestry, or their possessions and investments;
4. The sexually promiscuous who expect to be accorded the honor of a virtuous Roman matron or a biblical Joseph;
5. The patronizing Christian who consistently mimics a Pharisee;
6. The pedant who expects people to want to interact with him;
7. The panhandler who thinks bullying will get him a donation.

Boom.

It seems to me as though the good Mr. Sobrino may have run into all these profiles recently within a short period of time and had some time to reflect on them.

I guess I would just add as a corollary to number three that some people talk about all their problems which are all the fault of others. That's probably a sign of insecurity also.